Job Ideas for Teens

Imagine that you’re a woman. You’re with a man in your home. Suddenly he tells you how cold it is inside and he wants to turn the heat up a little, if you know what he means. You feel uncomfortable because you’re perfectly feeling warm. Then he continues to tell you that your couch is lovely and where did you buy it? This series of lines are enough for you to think that this man is crazy. And of course, there is no longer the question of trust. You cannot possibly trust someone who clearly doesn’t connect with you, can you?

This is an example of difference of social programming, and lack of credibility. The man is clearly showing how he is socially programmed, but is not understanding at all how you (the woman) are socially programmed. From there, it’s easy to say that there’s virtually nothing for the man. Remember the three things which entail credibility. You have to make her feel safe, you have to have something in common, and you have to be able to steer her in your direction.

Now how do you make it work?

First you have to be aware of how she is socially programmed. What are the things she considers important in a relationship? Most women just want a man who understands them and could connect with them.

That’s where safety comes in. You have to make her feel that you understand her needs and that you respect that. If you do that, she’ll feel more comfortable and safer with you.

Next, the common ground. Sometimes it’s not enough that you let her know you understand her needs. What will rock her world is when you say you want the same thins she wants. If she believes that you both have the same perceptions in things, like kissing in public or meeting the parents, your value will increase in her eyes.

Next, the direction. If she’s comfortable enough with you to let you in her world and her principles, it would be easier to influence her some of your real thoughts. Women would be more open to men’s opinions when they know that the men understand them and where they’re coming from.

In the long run, women might consider it destiny, to find someone like you who understand them the most and share their views and values on things. But you can call it having game.