A lot of men are easily put off or put down when it comes to approaching a woman. Contrary to what most men would think, the reason behind this is not because that the women are too full of themselves or are just not interested. Most of the time, and I hate to say this, it’s the men’s fault. In every situation where there involves selling yourself, whether it’s a job interview or asking woman out on a date, there is only one thing that you should keep in your mind and which you should enhance. And that’s credibility.

A lot of men easily give up because they doubt their credibility. And this doubt reflects with how they interact with a woman, especially when they’re saying a lot of impressive things to get her to date him. Sometimes, it isn’t a question anymore of whether what you’re saying is true or not. Everything would only depend on whether you could back up what the hell you’re saying to her.

A lot of men, even if what they say is true, aren’t confident enough in front of women to exude the charm or intelligence they’re supposed to have, so everything will go downhill anyway.

Credibility is the most important thing to remember, especially if you’re after sleeping with a woman you like. It’s a very high-risk situation, and everything you say will and can be used against you (sounds familiar?). So the key now is to scratch the “against” part in the statement, and replace it with “in favor of”. When you go out and try to approach a woman, the most reliable friend you’re going to have is not your buddy who keeps high-fiving you or keeps laughing at your jokes just so you would look interesting in front of the girls. No, the only thing that would be able to help you through thick and thin when it comes to dating is having credibility.

Now what exactly do I mean by credibility? I know saying it over and over again isn’t going to shed some light to your head, so why don’t I go ahead and explain it. Credibility actually means a lot of other things.

First of all, it means that you should be able to make a woman comfortable around you. She should first feel safe in your presence, not threatened.

Second of all, you should be able to find a common ground with a woman, sort of like a common interest or hobby. This should be obvious, because no nice woman would be attracted to a man who has nothing in common with her. Most woman depend their decisions on how much they have in common with the man they’re talking to.

Third of all, you have to make her see a sort of future for both of you. Women have extreme foresight. By being able to steer her in the direction you want for both of you, you are making her changer her plans in favor of you. She might be seeing someone casually when you met her, and suddenly at the end of the night, she isn’t anymore.